Unicorns are rare and highly coveted mystical creatures from folklores that symbolized purity, grace, and power.   Only exceptional people of strong character could get close enough to touch a unicorn.  In modern times, the unicorn has become symbolic of the perfect partner just out of reach.  The fantasy of having the perfect love and romance has permeated the minds of people all over the world.  The masses are setting themselves up for disappointment and failure by chasing an ideal that doesn’t exist.

People love idea of a relationship but have no interest in putting in the work to sustain one. That silly bible society views as a piece of archaic literature has some good gems.  1 Corinthians 13:4-7 gives the perfect definition of what love is: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.” How many people are truly patient, selfless, forgiving, kind, humble and genuinely care about others without some ulterior motive? Based on the actions of the human race, most are probably borderline misanthropist. We treat each other horribly and our motives for seeking partners are often selfish

In our microwave society where everything has to come fast and easy even if the consequences mean a broken body in the future, many people lack the patience to put in the work needed to cultivate a healthy, abiding relationship. Instead many settle for lust and the temporary excitement it brings. That’s where the unicorn comes in. Everyone wants that perfect partner who won’t put up a fuss nor will their relationship endure hardship.

The irony is that if this unicorn of a human existed, most people wouldn’t quality to have such a partner! While everyone should have standards, there are delusional people who need to sit down somewhere and take a more introspective view of their life. These magical thinkers have high expectations for their potential partners they aren’t even qualified to date. There are some out of shape, uneducated, broke, miscreants who feel entitled to a partner who is a fit, Stanford educated, financially successful, law biding citizen. Equality yoked applies both ways and it’s not just a saying to make church folks feel good. Unicorns will probably want to date other unicorns.  Don’t buy into the BS help books. You can’t have anyone or anything if you wish without putting in work. High quality people are in demand and don’t have to settle for anything else. Dating isn’t charity.

Here is a harsh reality that most self-help gurus fail to mention. Not everyone is good enough to have the best.  Realistically, most people are average when it comes to looks, economics, fitness level, intelligence, job prospects etc.  The best implies that person is exceptional, top-tier, high quality, and NOT AVERAGE! Just because the best isn’t into you, doesn’t mean there aren’t quality people available in your dating pool.  Stay in the pool and find the best fish because an unprepared person venturing into the vast ocean might drown or get eaten by a killer whale. Until a person as the resources to swim in the big ocean, they should focus on the swimming pool. Managing expectations is important in a world that promotes Hollywood fantasies. Anyone who desires the best needs to step up to the plate and cultivate qualities in themselves that would attract their personal unicorn. Besides, all of our relationships show who we are as people.